Truth University

Welcome to Truth University, where we shall be sharing 'truths' for the awareness of our souls and inner touch with it. Like I was asked by someone where Truth University is located. I answered 'the soul.' People hate the truth but luckily  it doesnn't care. The essence of Truth University is to nourish our souls. Lets start with the quote "if it doesn't nourish the soul, get rid of it." Sobriety (truth) is a journey, not a destination. So it shall be continued.

LOVE DEFICIT

 I read this somewhere: “When you have a good heart; you help too much, you trust too much, you love too much. And it seems you always hurt the most.” Being hurt at the end of it all is where deficit comes to play-you do virtually all the work (overfunctioning). In the accounting/business world, it is not heartwarming running at a deficit, it is like running at a loss.  As we have in the accounting/business sector, so can we be emotionally deficit, especially if we do not know when and where to strike the balance.

This piece is not to say we should not love at all, but that we should respect and value ourselves enough not to be emotionally deficit -don’t over function! If one party is doing all the work in a relationship/partnership/friendship, sooner or later, that party becomes weary and may wear out-this is deficit! Doing all the work with no complement from the other party sucks. It is at this point one begins to feel less love, care and appreciation. At that point you need to stand up (because you have been carrying a lot of weight) and you will feel lighter.

Love should be give and take. It is very painful when you lose yourself in the process of valuing someone too much that you forget you are special too. It is better to walk away than been walked over. People who do so little for you should not be allowed to control so much of your feelings and emotions. Running at deficit doesn’t make one enjoy the whole essence of love. If you allow people make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative. Know when to close the account. There is difference between giving up and knowing when you’ve had enough.

In the spirit of valentine, I wish to say Happy Valentine’s day. Dementedly, Valentine’s Day have become overrated and over commercialized. It has become a day destinies are at stake, girls especially, are deceived and vulnerable because of the hype of valentine. What happened to the everyday love and affection shared? Getting a treat or not that day does not necessarily define love. As a matter of fact, love is not a once in a year affair. Love is to be celebrated every time. If your relationship is right and blossoming, valentine’s day should not be a big deal.

Love in the name of valentine is usually a mirage. Don’t allow yourself be carried away by its drama. Refuse to be used this season!